I had a massive argument with my boss at work. I came out of his cabin fuming and crying. That time I was unable to comprehend if the tears rolling down my cheeks were of hurt ,insult or anger . Every nerve in my body was gushing blood. I knew I was right and wrong ,both but I was angry.
I reached my desk, and within no time I had all my dear co-workers standing in my support.They all reassured me that what I was feeling was absolutely correct and my decision to resign with immediate effect was the right step. The boss would realise the loss only when I leave.
Thank God for these co workers/ friends.
After giving me my much needed confirmation on decision of quitting work they all went back to their work stations. They assured me it was his fault for losing temper even if you had goofed up.. To err is human. Right ! one must learn to keep anger in control.
After all anger is a negative emotion, an emotion that usually over powers our ability to think wisely, speak nicely and act correctly.
I turned around to pick my bag and leave when I realized one of my coworkers was still there next to me,she had been quiet and unsupportive. I felt she betrayed me. I hated her being there. But suddenly she held my hand and said , “Now that you have vented the anger, relax and think again.. Ask yourself all those questions which can make you help take the correct decision. Sleep over it”.
She left me confused. Now I didn’t know what was correct. So many people had agreed that my decision was correct but why did she feel more right to me.
Duryodhana knew what he was doing was wrong, He needed an advice and that advice came from uncle Shakuni. The result is for history to witness.
On the other hand was Arjuna. His personal emotions were over powering his to sense of duty, and hence wanted to escape from the responsibilities. He needed a friend, guide, which he found in Krishna, and we know from history that Arjuna rose to greatness.
People who come to advice share what they think is the best, one could ask you to take revenge while the other may suggest to stay quiet. Nothing is wrong, nothing is right..
Keeping quiet in one situation does not guarantee the same result in another. Each situation is unique and needs to be handled differently.
What you need to chose is a correct and balanced mentor/friend who is able to assess the situations and give you a sound advice.
Chose Them Right !
